You explicitly said "equality means you have to stop insulting people's identities, especially when you are part of the privileged group". If membership in a privileged group plays any role, then you are not advocating for equality of individuals. If it plays no role, I guess bringing it up was a mistake on your part?
...saying both in a workplace is unacceptable.
Let me see if I understand. It's ok to not want to work with someone (beyond whatever is imposed by your supervisor). It's also ok to ask someone out at work (or are you completely opposed to all workplace relationships, e.g. Horvath's?).
But once you decide you don't want to work with someone, it's no longer ok to ask them out? I'm not following the reasoning here.
I meant that if you are going to ask someone out, from work, don't do it at work. And definitely don't combine work related stuff (like "you're fired") and personal stuff (like "you wanna date").
Don't contaminate the work place with personal romantic problems. The gray zone is a result of personal romantic problems: you can't talk to and work with a person because they are attractive? Grow a pair. (and the only reason I'm using that is because you used it ;p.)
I'd consider it very offensive. This person openly thinks I'm stupid and still wants to date? There are so many negative feelings there; I cannot even begin do describe them all.
...saying both in a workplace is unacceptable.
Let me see if I understand. It's ok to not want to work with someone (beyond whatever is imposed by your supervisor). It's also ok to ask someone out at work (or are you completely opposed to all workplace relationships, e.g. Horvath's?).
But once you decide you don't want to work with someone, it's no longer ok to ask them out? I'm not following the reasoning here.