I find it interesting that I grew up in a family which was not exactly religious (no church-going, etc), but incredibly moral in some it’s own way (Russian family based in Lithuania, military grandparents). But basically I had to let go of moral-ethical shame (guilt) to make my life easier too.

Not going to go into the depth of what these morals were, but in essence:

In some way I think it could be similar to having strict parents who had spent their whole life trying to make their children successful but it takes a lot of courage for that child to start living the life they way they want and not the life their parents have guilt-tripped them to live.