In most cases, you aren't bound to that payment schedule. I paid off a 30-year mortgage in 8 years, using one income, and I wasn't trying all that hard. Being a city person, you might not realize that the rest of us are getting houses for 10% of what you are probably paying.
There is cultural variation for sure. The thought of starting with a non-virgin is revolting to me. BTW, that should go for both sexes, though obviously one is impossible to scrub clean. (tiny cleaning brushes for Fallopian tubes?) Both sexes should hold spouses to this standard. If the other person wants to violate that standard, run! They've done it before.
I seriously feel that way, and I'm not even religious or rural. I'm married, and both of us were virgins. You shouldn't experiment with sex. Before college is fine, assuming you are married before college. I'm sure you hate and reject this idea, but you really devalue yourself if you sleep around. It's how you get herpes and more. Most people get herpes, but it is NOT an inevitable part of life. Your possible choices for a spouse are reduced if you've been around. If you do discover a nice spouse, but you remember getting better sex from a different person, how will you be happy? You'll forever be fantasizing about that other person. You'll probably be tempted to cheat.
I'm sure you think my attitude is strange, but consider this: I've been married for almost two decades. My parents, with a similar attitude, have been married for over four decades. Their parents were married longer, until death. There have not been any broken homes, custody fights, half-sibling surprises, or any similar misery. BTW, the women all got above-average education for their era, but didn't use it except to attract husbands. This is a way of life that works, free of the fights and other drama that is so common today. Children grow up safe and secure, and then provide likewise for their own children.
There is cultural variation for sure. The thought of starting with a non-virgin is revolting to me. BTW, that should go for both sexes, though obviously one is impossible to scrub clean. (tiny cleaning brushes for Fallopian tubes?) Both sexes should hold spouses to this standard. If the other person wants to violate that standard, run! They've done it before.
I seriously feel that way, and I'm not even religious or rural. I'm married, and both of us were virgins. You shouldn't experiment with sex. Before college is fine, assuming you are married before college. I'm sure you hate and reject this idea, but you really devalue yourself if you sleep around. It's how you get herpes and more. Most people get herpes, but it is NOT an inevitable part of life. Your possible choices for a spouse are reduced if you've been around. If you do discover a nice spouse, but you remember getting better sex from a different person, how will you be happy? You'll forever be fantasizing about that other person. You'll probably be tempted to cheat.
I'm sure you think my attitude is strange, but consider this: I've been married for almost two decades. My parents, with a similar attitude, have been married for over four decades. Their parents were married longer, until death. There have not been any broken homes, custody fights, half-sibling surprises, or any similar misery. BTW, the women all got above-average education for their era, but didn't use it except to attract husbands. This is a way of life that works, free of the fights and other drama that is so common today. Children grow up safe and secure, and then provide likewise for their own children.